She sat across from me on Zoom, eyes welling with tears.
“I don’t even know who I am anymore,” she said quietly.
Her kids were grown, her marriage had shifted, and for the first time in years, there was silence in her house—and in her head.
That’s what happens when the roles we’ve lived in for decades suddenly change.
Mom. Wife. Caregiver. Professional.
And then… the question that hits harder than we expect:
Who am I now?
When the calendar suddenly opens up and the house feels too quiet, it’s not just about missing your kids or the routine: it’s about the loss of identity.
So many women in their 40s and 50s tell me the same thing:
“I spent so long taking care of everyone else that I forgot what I love.”
It’s normal to feel that ache of “what now?”
It’s not weakness. It’s your body and mind signaling it’s time to reclaim your life.
And here’s the good news: this second act can be the most powerful one yet
When I work with women in midlife, we anchor our coaching around four pillars that rebuild not just the body but the whole woman:
Movement, Mindset, Metabolism, and Meaning.
Movement: Move because it makes you feel alive, not because you’re chasing your 30-year-old body. Strength training, walking, yoga, surfing or whatever makes you feel grounded again.
Mindset: Replace “I’m too old” with “I’m just getting started.” The body responds to the beliefs we feed it.
Metabolism: Midlife isn’t a slowdown; it’s a recalibration. Nourish your body with protein, real food, and balanced hormones.
Meaning: You’ve spent decades building others’ dreams. Now, it’s time to design a life that feels deeply yours.
Rediscover a Hobby
What did you love before life got so full? Painting, hiking, music, photography? Bring back play as it reconnects you with who you were before the titles.
Get Strong—Literally
Lifting weights rebuilds more than muscle. It rebuilds confidence, bone density, and trust in your body again.
Find Your Community
Healing happens in connection. Surround yourself with women who remind you that reinvention is not only possible; it’s celebrated.
For me, reclaiming my identity didn’t happen overnight. It began when I stopped being “the Ironman coach” and started being Jen again, a woman rediscovering her power through strength, surfing, and living intentionally in Costa Rica.
Divorce, menopause, and major life shifts don’t have to define you.
They can refine you.
If you’re standing in your own what now moment and ready to feel strong, purposeful, and confident again; this is your sign.
My Rise Strong 1:1 Coaching is designed for women who are ready to rebuild from the inside out through movement, mindset, metabolism, and meaning.
👉🏽 Learn more about Rise Strong Coaching or apply HERE to see if it’s the right next step for you.
Because this next chapter isn’t about who you used to be.
It’s about who you’re becoming. 🌊
