She sat across from me on Zoom, eyes welling with tears. “I don’t even know who I am anymore,” she said quietly. Her kids were grown, her marriage had shifted, and for the first time in years, there was silence in her house—and in her head. That’s what happens when the roles we’ve lived in […]
When I tell people I quit drinking and started my sobriety journey, I can see it right away — the assumptions in their eyes. They picture me falling down drunk, unable to hold a job, living in chaos. That’s the story society has handed us: if you quit drinking, you must have hit rock bottom. […]
When I first started surfing in Costa Rica at 50 years old, aka midlife, I realized something quickly: it wasn’t just about balance on the board or reading the waves. It was about strength. The push-ups to pop up. The legs to drive through white water. The back and shoulders to paddle with power. And […]
I was in San José recently when the ground started to sway beneath me. At first, I thought I was imagining it — maybe too much coffee, perhaps just nerves or dealing with “midlife” hot flashes. But no. It was an earthquake. It didn’t last long, but for those seconds, everything felt uncertain. The walls, […]
When women hit their 40s and 50s, the “midlife,” we’re often handed the narrative that it’s time to “slow down.” We hear things like, “Take it easy, you’re not 25 anymore” or “Just accept that fatigue, weight gain, and brain fog are part of aging.” But here’s what I’ve learned through my own journey and […]
